The pressure to have ‘a vision’ and why it’s ok if you don’t have this straight away
I really hear this a lot: “I don’t really have a vision yet… is that bad?” And every time, I say a big no!
Expecting yourself to know exactly what you want when it comes to your wedding or wedding flowers is a bit like turning up to your first driving lesson expected to already know how to reverse park already… or walking into a restaurant and feeling pressure to order instantly without even seeing the menu. Some things just don’t work like that!
Honestly, even with floristry, I didn’t wake up one day knowing my style. I didn’t sit down and choose “modern, sculptural, flower-packed”. It grew over time - through trying things, changing my mind, having conversations, trusting my gut, and sometimes realising what wasn’t me before I understood what was. So when couples apologise to me for not having a clear floral vision yet, I will truly spend time reassuring and guiding them because that’s exactly where most people start.
Not having clarity doesn’t mean you’re behind. It usually means you’re still listening/thinking to yourselves and to how you want the day to feel and that’s where the best weddings come from.
At Muse & Petal, my role isn’t to expect you to arrive with all the answers, it’s to sit in that in-between space with you and gently shape something that feels true. We build the vision together. Slowly and intentionally and the biggest thing - allowing room to change your mind!
If you’re feeling stuck, try this instead of forcing a vision or feeling overwhelmed that you haven’t got one yet:
Describe what you want your wedding to feel like to you in 3 feelings (not colours, not flowers).
Write down three things you know you don’t want - this is super helpful!
Ask yourselves: what do you want people to come away saying or feeling about your day - and your flowers?
You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need reassurance that it will come.
Alice x
Muse and Petal
